Quotes from "The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down" by Haemin Sunim

• What makes music beautiful is the distance between one note and another, What makes speech eloquent is the appropriate pause between words. From time to time, we should take a breath and notice the silence between sounds.
• As the spiritual teacher Jiddu Krishnamurti said, "Pure attention without judgement is not only the highest form of human intelligence but also the expression of love."
• If you want revenge because your feelings are hurt, all you can see is your suffering. But if you calm yourself and look more deeply, you will see that the person who hurt you is suffering too.
• No person can be found who has been, is, or will be only criticized or only praised. - DHAMMAPADA
• A moral purist who is quick to judge others often fails to see the flaws within himself.
• When you attack someone, it is often because you are afraid.
• Evaluating the present through the memories of the past can cause sadness.
• You are the vast silence that knows of their emergence and their disappearance.
• Life is like theatre. You are assigned a role. If you don't like the role, Keep in mind that you have the power to recreate the role you want.
• No matter how effective the medicine may be, if you deem that someone takes it, it can taste like poison.
• The toll of a bell is heard far and wide only when the bell is struck hard- Your influence won't spread far without the sacrifice of hard work. The world notices your efforts more quickly than you think.
• A person does not live the way he says he would. He lives the way he has been living.
• The most dangerous people are those who have passion but lack wisdom.
• Everyone is kind to someone they meet for the first time. The question is how long their kindness lasts. Don't be fooled just because someone is nice to you at first.
• People who enjoy their work are usually more successful than those who don't.
• People react differently to the same situation. If we look at it more closely, we see it's not the situation that is troubling us, but our perspective on it.
• We feel unhappy not just because something bad has happened, but also because of the swirling thoughts about what happened.
• If you've been unable to change a bad situation, even after many attempts, you should change how you look at the situation.
• Too many choices make people unhappy.
• I wish you could see my true nature
  Beyond my body and labels,
  There is a river of tenderness and vulnerability
  Beyond stereotypes and assumptions
  there is a valley of openness and authenticity
  Beyond memory and ego,
  there is an ocean of awareness and compassion.
• The wise don't fight the world. In the most relaxed and playful manner, they simply embody the truth that they are one with it.
• Don't give up in the face of criticism. Learn to brush aside what people who don't know you have to say. Having critics means what you're doing is getting people's attention. Have courage, and continue down the path you're on.
• Life teaches us through our mistakes. When you make mistakes, simply ask yourself what you were meant to learn from them. When we accept such lessons with humility and gratitude, we grow that much more.
• To be happy, it's not necessary to expend great effort so we get somewhere else. Instead, relax into the present moment while finding humour in your life.
• With humour, life becomes light and leisurely. And laughter always brings people to experience openness and joy.
• Humor opens closed hearts. Humour can free us from the grip of our thoughts. When we smile, we feel we can accept things we previously couldn't. We feel we can forgive those who have wronged us. Humour is an essential part of life.
• The road to happiness lies not just in finding a good job but also in learning to enjoy what you are asked to do.
• When you are making a decision, try to assess how many people it will benefit. If it satisfies only your ego and unnecessarily hurts many, then it is a wrong decision.
• Be the kind of person who can put yourself in someone else's shoes and understand something not just from your own perspective but from theirs as well.
• Some people are generous and kind to those outside their circle while neglecting the needs of those within it. It is a mistake to take family and close colleagues for granted. When those closest to you feel ignored and betrayed, everything you have built can collapse in an instant.
• Trying to convince someone to adopt our views is largely the work of our ego. Even if we turn out to be right, our ego knows no satisfaction and seeks a new argument to engage in.
• Being right isn't nearly as important as being happy together.
• If I want to convince someone, I first listen attentively and try to understand them. Even if I am right, they won't be convinced until they feel heard and respected.
• Being a critic is easy. But if the critic tries to run an operation, he soon understands that nothing is as easy as his criticisms. Criticism without a solution is merely an inflation of the critic's ego.
• If someone looks perfect, then that is because you don't know the person very well.
• "Don't try to make it perfect, Instead make it  interesting." 
• If you want the best result, watch with interest but know when to back off.
• See whether you are succeeding at the expense of others, or along with others, If you shove others aside on the way to success then you will be pulled under once the tide changes.
• If you lower your head, you won't bump into trouble.
• Just remember that the person who had made your life difficult today could be an undercover teacher sent from above, tasked with your spiritual growth.
• People say hurtful things because they themselves have been hurt.
• Those who do not make enemies are more powerful than those who have the strength to fight them all and win.
• When you speak ill of others, it hurts you more than anyone because your negativity is the loudest within you.
• No matter how hurt you are, you don't need to have the last word.
• Paper wrapped around intense smells of incense and string binding fish smells of fish.
• The best way to hide your wealth is to give it away.
• Tissues are like lives. There are always more.
• Regrets ignore chronology. They float around. The sequence of these lists changes all the time.
• To fear love is to fear life and those who fear life are already three parts dead.
• True knowledge exists in knowing that you know nothing.